How To Choose A Good Potty Chair

How To Choose A Good Potty Chair

Your child is beginning to show some interest in potty training and it is at the right age. So you race to the store to get your little one a potty. If you are like me, you didn’t realize how many possibilities you will find these days when it comes to potty chairs. You will find little potties that sit on the floor, inserts for a regular toilet, character-based potty chairs and even models that come with sound and light effects. Which one is going to be right for your child?

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Reduce your search by choosing if you want to go with a portable model that could sit on the floor, or a potty seat insert that will lay on top of your regular toilet. Using one of the inserts will make cleanup a snap given that all you need to do is flush and occasionally wipe the seat. Some kids are afraid to “go” in a normal toilet at first though. As these toilet inserts are rather inexpensive, this is usually a good start for you just to try it out. After your child gets accustomed to potty training, she is going to start using the insert. Plus this model is quite portable. You can take it with you when you go visit grandma.

Potty seats may have a safety issue mounted on them. You need to provide a step stool of some sort for your child to ascend onto the training seat safely. A few children love this, but some toddlers intensely dislike this part of utilizing a toilet seat; actually, they’re downright scared.

It’s in your interest if he considers coming to the toilet fun. A good idea is to pick a seat that has some of his favorite cartoon characters on it, or is just colorful and bright. Your kids will have an easier time relieving himself as he is visually inspired. You can also get specialty potty chairs. These are the fun potty chairs. You can get musical potties (some make music when a sensor detects wetness, others simply have a button your child can push to play a song), character potties and hand-painted potty chairs that turn out to be beautiful rocking chairs once your preschooler is done potty training.

For those who have a couple of days or even weeks to choose a potty chair, shop around. You’ll find some great sales on potty chairs both at your local department and discount stores and of course online. Looking around can create a huge difference if you (or your child) have your heart focused on a far more expensive model.

Again, be very consistent and patient. Very soon, you’re on track to become a parent of a diaper-free child.

 

Amazingly Easy DIY Chalk Board Walls for Your Kids!

Amazingly Easy DIY Chalk Board Walls for Your Kids!

For the younger ones who may love to draw, you can create a chalk board wall for them to express their imagination. This not only provides a fun decor, but stimulates the children’s imaginations and encourage learning all at the same time.

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Chalkboard walls are so much fun to have in your home and are a huge bonus for parents that currently have wall-scribbling children! Instead of banning your kids from writing on walls, you can encourage them now to become creative and inspired. Drawing and coloring are powerful tools and have an immense influence on the development of your child. They boost self-trust, cognitive, physical and emotional development.

There are tons of pictures to draw that can range from simple shapes and figurines in creative compositions to cartoon scenes with adorable animals. You can also use your chalkboard wall to create a calendar with the current month’s schedule. That way doctor’s appointments, soccer practice, birthday parties, an upcoming quiz, and homework due dates won’t be a surprise anymore!

Here’s How to Create that Chalkboard Wall of Kids’ Dreams:

Choose the Right Brand

There are many different brands of chalkboard paint on the market, so make sure to do your research before you go out shopping. One brand I have used in the past was Rust-Oleum from Home Depot. It’s a fabulous black flat chalkboard paint that can be used on wood, metal, concrete, masonry and drywall. You also want to make sure you are buying a latex-based paint which makes it easy to erase, clean, and it also has low odor.

Read more: http://betterdecoratingbible.com/2016/09/12/amazingly-easy-diy-chalk-board-walls-for-your-kids

 

Recommendations for Controlling & Paranoid Parents

Yes, you are the parent and should be in control – but you do not have to be controlling. There is a difference, a big one.

Loosening the reins can help establish trust in a parent-child relationship.

You love your kids and want to protect them from making mistakes, getting hurt and failing. When you do this in a manner that’s controlling and paranoid, your results may be less than optimal. ”Uber-strict parents who rule with a controlling, iron fist — while not giving their children a chance to speak their mind — are more likely to raise children who are disrespectful and engage in delinquent behaviors such as stealing, hurting others, and/or substance abuse,” states Denise Mann, in her article,“Overly Strict, Controlling Parents Risk Raising Delinquent Kids” as cited on WebMD. By loosening your grip over your children — and being responsive to your children’s needs, you’re more likely to establish trust and respect, and to get the results you seek.

Types of Controlling Parents

There are eight controlling parenting styles: perfectionist, smothering, using, abusive, depriving, chaotic, cult-like and childlike, according to the psychotherapist and clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Dan Neuhart, Ph.D., on his website ControllingParents.com. A parent who is paranoid may have a cult-like controlling style, where he feels anxiety about uncertainty and uses rigid rules to compensate. A child with a parent like this may feel as if he has to perfectly follow the rules to receive affection from his parent. A paranoid parent with a smothering style may be afraid of feeling alone, which, according to Neuhart, may make a child less independent and autonomous. A parent with a perfectionist parenting style might be afraid of flaws, thereby driving a child to possibly fixate on outward appearances. By knowing what type of controlling parenting style you have, you can have a better understanding of your behavior toward your children, and how you can begin to change. Since changing isn’t easy, you may find value in working with a family therapist.

Examining Parenting Style Origins

An overbearing parent can start to change her parenting style to one that’s more positive by examining her past according to Steven Richfield, Ph.D, in the article “Parenting Help: Controlling the Controlling Parent” on the HealthyPlace website. Richfield suggests that controlling and paranoid parents often had a parent with a similar parenting style. By determining the reasons or influences behind your parenting style, you can begin to change your parenting and have a healthier relationship with your child. In the parenting magazine “Your Teen Mag,” Deborah Gilboa, MD, says in an online article, “Helicopter Parent: Advice from an Expert,” that it may be difficult to change your parenting style, because it’s hard to change how you feel — but change isn’t impossible. Gilboa adds that how you feel isn’t as important as your actions — you can still change your actions without changing your feelings or letting go of your values.

Engage Instead of Control

Gilboa recommends that controlling parents should engage with their children instead of try to control them. When you listen more than offer advice or tell your child what to do, you loosen the reins, give your child some  …

 

Read more: http://oureverydaylife.com/recommendations-controlling-paranoid-parents-3230.html

Safe Cosleeping Guidelines

Co-sleeping is a wonderful experience for both baby and mother and has many pros to it, with very little cons.

 

Below is a summary that highlights some of the issues to be concerned with as you make your own decisions about where and how your infant should sleep.

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 What constitutes a “safe sleep environment” irrespective of where the infant sleeps?

Safe infant sleep ultimately begins with a healthy gestation. Specifically, safe infant sleep begins without the fetus being exposed to maternal smoke during pregnancy.

A second factor that has a strong influence on safe infant sleep is breastfeeding. Breastfeeding significantly helps to protect infants from death including deaths from SIDS/SUDI and from secondary disease and/or congenital conditions. Post-natally safe infant sleep begins especially with the presence of an informed, breastfeeding, committed mother, or an informed and committed father.

Regardless of whether an infant sleeps on the same surface as his or her parents, on a same-surface co-sleeper, in a bassinet or in a separate crib, in the same room as their parents or in a separate room, all infants should follow these same guidelines: infants should always sleep on their backs, on firm surfaces, on clean surfaces, in the absence of (secondhand) smoke, under light (comfortable) blanketing, and their heads should never be covered. 

The bed should not have any stuffed animals or pillows around the infant and never should an infant be placed to sleep on top of a pillow or otherwise soft bedding.

Sheepskins or other fluffy material and especially beanbag mattresses should never be used with infants. Waterbeds can be especially dangerous to infants too, and no matter the type of mattress, it should always tightly intersect the bed-frame to leave no gaps or space. Infants should never sleep on couches or sofas with or without adults as they can slip down (face first) into the crevice or get wedged against the back of a couch where they may suffocate.

Bedsharing: It is important to be aware that adult beds were not designed to assure infants safety!

  • It is important to realize that the physical and social conditions under which infant-parent cosleeping occur, in all it’s diverse forms, can and will determine the risks or benefits of this behavior. What goes on in bed is what matters.
  • Bottlefeeding babies should always sleep alongside the mother on a separate surface rather than in the bed.

 

Read more: http://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/

Understanding and supporting a person with dementia

Discovering how to help people with dementia can seem overwhelming, especially if you don’t know where to start. The first step is to determine if you are helping one person or a group of people. There are many ways to help, and you can make an impact whether you work with one person, with a community or globally.

Read our factsheet on how to understand and support a person with dementia

Living with dementia can have a big emotional, social, psychological and practical impact on a person. Many people with dementia describe these impacts as a series of losses and adjusting to them is challenging. This factsheet aims to give people – and carers in particular – a better understanding of what it is like to have dementia. It looks at ways to support someone to live well with the condition, based on that understanding. It also looks at how supporting someone with dementia can affectcarers.

The way a person with dementia feels and experiences life is down to more than just having the condition. There are many other factors aside from the symptoms of dementia that play a huge role in shaping someone’s experience. These include the relationships the person has, their environment and the support they receive.

Personal relationships and someone’s social environment are central to life, regardless of age or mental ability. People can recognise this by being as supportive as possible. Carers, friends and family, can help a person with dementia to feel valued and included. Support should be sensitive to the person as an individual, and focus on promoting their wellbeing and meeting their needs.

When supporting a person with dementia, it can be helpful for carers to have an understanding of the impact the condition has on that person. This includes understanding how the person might think and feel, as these things will affect how they behave. The person may be experiencing a world that is very different to that of the people around them. It will help if the carer offers support while trying to see things from the perspective of the person with dementia, as far as possible.

Each person is unique, with their own life history, personality, likes and dislikes. It is very important to focus on what the person still does have, not on what they may have lost. It is also important to focus on what the person feels rather than what they remember.

However, dementia has many effects. Most people experience memory difficulties and problems with thinking.

These in turn may lead to the loss of:

  • self-esteem
  • confidence
  • independence and autonomy

 

Read more: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/site/scripts/documents_info.php?documentID=84

What makes kids care? Teaching gentleness in a violent world

As parents, it is our responsibility to help our children develop into healthy, adjusted, successful and righteous people. To guide them in life, they have to be taught at a very early age.

 

In a world where violence and cruelty seem to be common and almost acceptable, many parents wonder what they can do to help their children to become kinder and gentler — to develop a sense of caring and compassion for others.

In a world where violence and cruelty seem to be common and almost acceptable, many parents wonder what they can do to help their children to become kinder and gentler — to develop a sense of caring and compassion for others. Raising kids who care isn’t a solution to violence by itself, but it’s reasonable to worry that being exposed to a lot of violence — whether it’s on television or on the streets — could make your children hard and uncaring.

Parents, of course, can’t completely control all the things that affect their children’s lives. After all, children spend a lot of time out in the “real world,” which can often be harsh, uncaring or just plain unhappy. And children have their own personalities and characteristics that parents can’t change or control. But there are some things that a parent can do to encourage their children to become caring, fair and responsible.

People sometimes think that children don’t really see the outside world — or other people — the way adults do, that they only view the world from their own eyes and in their own way. But is this true?

Researchers used to believe that a sense of real caring about others only came as people grow into adulthood. But now studies are finding that children can show signs of empathy and concern from a very early age. They react with concern when they see unhappiness, wanting to help or fix the problem.

And one study found that teenagers who were involved in helping others felt very positive about their lives and had high hopes for their own futures.

The most important thing you as a parent can do is to let your children know how much it means to you that they behave with kindness and responsibility. When you see your child doing something that you think is thoughtless or cruel, you should let them know right away that you don’t want them doing that. Speak to your child firmly and honestly, and keep your focus on the act, not on the child personally — something along the lines of ‘What you did is not very nice’ rather than ‘You are not very nice.’

This emotional reaction needs to be accompanied by information — some explanation of why you disapprove — for example, “Look, Joey is crying. He’s crying because you took his toy away. That wasn’t a very nice thing to do!” or “It hurts the cat when you do that; that’s why he scratched you. It isn’t kind, and I don’t want you to do that any more!” It’s important to let children know how deeply you feel about their behavior toward others. If they see that you have a real emotional commitment to something, it’s more likely that the issue will become important to them, too.

Be frank, honest and upfront with your kids about what kind of behavior you do and don’t like. Keep your comments short and to the point; the idea is to teach them, not to make them feel guilty.

According to another study there are two kinds of parental role modeling that help teach children to be caring: kindness to others and kindness to the child.

In other words, our actions speak louder than words.

If you are consistently caring and compassionate, it’s more likely that your children will be, too. Children watch their parents, and other adults, for clues on how to behave.

Keep in mind that if you say one thing and do another, your children will pay a lot more attention to what you do. The old warning “Do as I say, not as I do” simply does not work, particularly when it comes to teaching about caring.

Try to surround your children with other people who are kind and caring, so that they have several role models.

If you treat your children with respect for their dignity, concern, and regard for their achievements, you help them understand that all living creatures should be treated with dignity and concern.

Parents understandably worry that their effort at home could be undermined by outside influences such as their children’s friends, daily violence in their own neighborhoods, television shows and movies, or a culture that exalts “heroes” who are selfish.

Here are a few things that you can do to help counteract these influences:

  • Give them books that promote compassionate behavior. Keep in mind, though, that kids — especially teenagers — don’t like characters who are “goody-two-shoes,” so look for books about ordinary characters who perform acts of caring and concern.
  • A study at the National Institute of Mental Health found that children who tend to imitate behavior they see on television. For this reason, you may want to limit their viewing of violent programs and encourage them to watch shows that promote ideas about caring and helping.

 

Read more: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/kids-care.aspx

How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids: Use These 10 Tips

Why is it so easy to go from “zero to 60” when our kids make us angry? There are many reasons, but I think it’s mainly because we allow ourselves to go to 60. And in a sense, when we get up to 60-when we react emotionally-we’re allowing the behavior of our kids to determine how we’ll behave rather than the other way around.

 

How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids: Use These 10 Tips

Calm Parenting—most of us aspire to it, desire it, and even promise ourselves we’re going to do it—but it’s so difficult to sustain. We know how important it is to parent from our principles rather than from our fears, but despite our best intentions we lose it and end up yelling at those we love the most — our kids.

And why? Actually for good reason. We often blame our kids for our outbursts and convince ourselves that it’s because they don’t listen, are disrespectful, sassy, or misbehave. It’s important to understand that these are just our triggers—actions, behavior or events that push our buttons and often make us react without thinking. Added to that, we parents have strong feelings when it comes to parenting; they can run the gamut from fear, to sadness, to helplessness, and more. Parenting is a very personal experience and our feelings can easily get in our way of logic and wise reasoning. After all, we’re only human!

“Often without realizing it, we are parenting from a sense of panic, urgency and fear; we are reacting to triggers that are continually setting off internal alarms.”

Understand that all feelings are natural, normal and acceptable—but all behaviors are not. Our challenge is to accept our feelings, but take control of our behavior when our strong feelings are triggered.

Triggers and Buttons

And what triggers our feelings so strongly? We are all vulnerable to different emotions that can set off an alarm bell inside of us. Some of us become easily angered and others deeply fearful. So many hurts and disappointments and struggles happen as we raise our kids, and each of these emotional experiences forces us to confront our true selves, our “unfinished business,” and our fears. Parenting can expose us to our own deep, dark self—the pretty and not so pretty— some of which we were probably hoping to keep out of sight! These moments of …

 

Read more: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-stop-yelling-at-your-kids-use-these-10-tips/

How To Handle Home Relocation

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Moving is actually among the greatest source of stress and anxiety. What’s more worrying is when you happen to be moving along with your little ones. Moving with children necessitates a lot of attention simply because have the tendency to cause further problem. The event may be stressful for kids, who might not be part of the decision to move and may not understand it. Nevertheless, you can consider these pointers to make the course of action much easier for everybody.

Attempt talking to them as much as you can about the move

Enabling the children know of the plans in moving must be the first thing to do for parents. Kids must have an awareness of what and why is moving about. Since they typically feel feelings of anxiety and stress, it is essential that you check their emotions. The more you discuss to them the circumstance and reassure them, they’ll eventually take it favorably or lightly. Thus, talking mean lesser dilemma to the kids.

Include them in major events and allow them to vent out their issues

Most of the time, kids want to have a little contribution in the plan. This is really important in making them get used to the idea. Do not disregard their concerns and recommendations. Including kids in the planning as much as possible causes them to feel like members in the house-hunting process or the quest for a new school. This could result in the change feel less like it is being forced to them. Addressing their questions is a good approach to include them in the relocating process.

Motivate them to help

This element is very important no matter how minor the help maybe. This can be a helpful way of addressing their issues. If you accomplish in giving them with a sense that they’re active members of the moving activity, they’ll likely feel in control and possess favorable attitude.

Stay calm and do not appear stressed

As parent’s know their kids from head to foot, it is the same with kids to their parents. Whenever parents feel worrisome, the children can easily sense it. In case you express an anxious feeling, they are going to probably feel that way too/ Hence keep in mind to remain relax, take pleasure in every moment and take things positively.

Show them the new place

Should you be able, take the children to the new place for a visit. If you are only moving across town, plan to spend the day doing a walk-through of the house and a look of the new neighborhood. Make an effort to show to them things that can certainly make them enthusiastic on the move.

Using these guidelines, your kids will probably have fun with the move while keeping an optimistic mindset. Your transfer won’t have stress and you’ll have a good time throughout this process.

Disordered Eating and Dieting

An eating disorder can prove to be fatal if left untreated. The benefits of eating disorder treatment include a healthier lifestyle, a positive body image, an increase in self-esteem and happiness.

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Disordered eating is a disturbed and unhealthy eating pattern that can include restrictive dieting, compulsive eating or skipping meals.

Disordered eating can include behaviours which reflect many but not all of the symptoms of feeding and eating disorders such as Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, Binge Eating Disorder, Other Specified Feeding and Eating Disorders (OSFED) or Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID).

Disordered eating behaviours, and in particular dieting are the most common indicators of the development of an eating disorder. Eating disorders are severe and life threatening mental illnesses. An eating disorder is not a lifestyle choice.

Disordered eating can have a destructive impact upon a person’s life and has been linked to a reduced ability to cope with stressful situations. There is also increased incidence of suicidal thoughts and behaviours in adolescents with disordered eating.

Examples of disordered eating include:

  • Fasting or chronic restrained eating
  • Skipping meals
  • Binge eating
  • Self induced vomiting
  • Restrictive dieting
  • Unbalanced eating (e.g. restricting a major food group such as ‘fatty’ foods or carbohydrates)
  • Laxative, diuretic, enema misuse
  • Steroid and creatine use – supplements designed to enhance athletic performance and alter physical appearance
  • Using diet pills

Learn how to recognise the warning signs of eating disorders

Why are disordered eating and dieting dangerous?

Not everyone who diets will develop an eating disorder but it would be hard to find a person with an eating disorder who has not been on a diet themselves. Dieting is one of the most common forms of disordered eating.

Severely restricting the amount of food you eat can be a very dangerous practice. When the body is starved of food it responds by reducing the rate at which it burns energy (the metabolic rate), this can result in overeating and binge eating behaviours that can lead to weight gain and obesity.

 

Read more: http://www.nedc.com.au/disordered-eating

Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder, formerly called manic-depressive illness, is one of several disorders known as mood disorders. Mania and depression alone or in combination are the hallmarks of the mood disorders.

Bipolar Disorder

The Background

You just failed a big test and are pretty bummed about it. Or, you’re going through a bad breakup and feeling pretty down. We’ve all been there. In day-to-day life, everyone experiences ups and downs every now and then. Eventually, time passes on and our mood becomes better and we become “ourselves” again. Unlike the normal population, individuals living with bipolar disorder cycle through extreme mood swings that cause disruption to daily life.

Bipolar Disorder. Manic Depression. Bipolar Affective Disorder. All three terms are synonymous with each other and the name of a mental health disorder affecting approximately 3% of the American population. The classic symptoms of bipolar disorder are the periodic changes in mood, alternating between periods of elevated mood (mania or hypomania) and periods of depression. If you are living with bipolar disorder, you may feel energetic, abnormally happy, and make reckless decisions during manic states. During depressive states, you may feel the overwhelming urge to cry, experience feelings of hopelessness, and have a negative outlook on life. Hypomania is a less severe form of mania, where you generally feel  pretty good – with a better sense of well-being and productivity.

With bipolar disorder, you don’t just feel “down in the dumps;” your depressive state may lead to suicidal thoughts that change over to feelings of euphoria  and endless energy. These extreme mood swings can occur more frequently – such as every week – or show up more sporadically – maybe just twice a year. There is also no defined pattern to the mood swings. One does not always occur before the other – and the length of time you are in one state or the other varies as well. The good news is that there are a number of treatments that can keep your moods in check – allowing you to live a productive life.

Rates of bipolar disorder in men and women are about equal and the typical onset of symptoms occur around 25 years of age. There are many types of bipolar disorder; three of the most common include Bipolar I Disorder, Bipolar II Disorder, and Cyclothymic Disorder. Bipolar I Disorder is characterized by the occurrence of at least one manic episode, preceded or followed by a hypomanic or major depressive episode. Manic episodes may be so severe they significantly disrupt your daily functioning or may trigger a break from reality (psychosis). If you are suffering from Bipolar I Disorder, you may require hospitalization. If you are living with Bipolar II Disorder, you experience at least one major depressive episode lasting two weeks or more and at least one hypomanic episode lasting at least four days. But, you will not have experienced a manic episode.  Cyclothymic disorder is characterized by at least two years of multiple occurrences of hypomania symptoms and depressive symptoms – these symptoms are less severe than hypomanic episodes and major depressive episodes. During this time, symptoms present themselves at least half of the time and are constant for at least two months.

Signs and Symptoms

Because there are many different stages of bipolar disorder, the signs and symptoms vary from person to person and from type to type. Presented below are the most common signs and symptoms of bipolar disorder, categorized by emotional state.

Manic Symptoms

According to the DSM-5, a manic episode is characterized by a distinct and abnormal state of elevated, expansive, or irritable mood occurring for at least one week. The manic episode is persistently driven by a goal-directed behavior or energy. A hypomanic episode is a distinct and abnormal state of elevated, expansive, or irritable mood that lasts for at least four consecutive days.

If you have been diagnosed as suffering from bipolar disorder, you may experience any of the signs and symptoms during a manic period:

  • long period of feeling “high” – an overly elated, happy, and outgoing mood
  • feeling extremely irritable
  • being easily distracted
  • having racing thoughts
  • talking very fast

 

Read more: http://www.psycom.net/depression.central.bipolar.html